More and more since we've distanced ourselves from the GFI materials, I realize how deeply influenced we were. I didn't have some of the discipline or milk supply problems that I've heard about, but we've had other problems--mainly a deep misunderstanding of what is child-appropriate behavior, and consequently, we stressed out over things that we never should have been upset about (from the infant stage to now at the primary aged child). I've had to re-learn how to relax about certain things, and create an atmosphere of trust and understanding in our home. I DON'T want our children's memories of our home to be how stressed out I got over small things.
I DID use Babywise with my oldest daughter, and modified it with my second daughter. I thank God that I had a C-section with my first baby and HAD to lie around with her for the first 6 weeks...it definately got me more established with reading her cues than if I had be "able" to follow Babywise right away. She did fine and was healthy and nursed for 16 months, so obviously I had no milk supply problems.
So why am I "anti-Babywise" now?
#1 It CAN lead some parents into being rigid, stressed out parents--I still think I got stressed out more about my oldest daughter than I should have been doing.
#2 With 4 children, the idea of everything centering around a baby's routine is absurd....I can't. I've got swimming lessons, homeschooling, doctor's appointments, outside activities, wiping noses, helping preschoolers in the bathroom, baking cookies, making supper, admiring art projects etc.... To put some things off because baby has to nap for 1-3 is plain silly in my shoes. It worked when I had one baby--it won't work now.
#3 The character problems with Gary Ezzo are too big for me to recommend anything he writes.
I am DEFINATELY an advocate for routines. I think routine is excellent for children, but I think being rigid with a schedule is not. I have 4 children (5.5,3.5, 20 months and 5 weeks) and the older 3 all have bedtimes, wake-up times, scheduled rests (not naps for the older 2); breakfast, lunch and supper are all at relatively the same time every day. My routine with the older three children is not time-oriented, but rather, event oriented. The baby does not have a planned routine, but when he is sleeping, I slide activities into that slot rather than slot him to be sleeping when he isn't. My babies are always in a great, predictible routine soon enough.